Elli Schmeltekopf, MS, LPC, SEP

Licensed Professional Counselor and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

Hold Me Tight

Please visit our website for the latest information on our Hold Me Tight®
Workshops! Elli and her life partner, David Bate, have co-facilitated over 30 Hold Me Tight
® Couples Workshops. They both remain awed by the change that occurs for couples in just two days!

Hold Me Tight: Conversations for Connection
A Relationship Enhancement Education Program for Couples

This workshop is based on the book, Hold Me Tight, by Dr. Sue Johnson. This program offers a revolutionary new way to see and shape love relationships. The stories, new ideas and exercises offered in Hold Me Tight are based on the new science of love and the wisdom of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).

EFT is a short-term, structured approach to marital and couples therapy. Empirical and experiential research has supported the effectiveness of EFT showing that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and about 90% show significant improvements (the best results of any couple therapy) and evidence shows that these positive effects last over time. Presently EFT is being used with diverse couples from various cultures around the world in private practice, university training centers and hospital clinics.

Hold Me Tight: Conversations for Connection is a program Dr. Johnson put together to make the benefits of EFT more accessible. This program is ideal for couples that love each other but have a hard time maintaining a feeling of closeness or have developed patterns that create separation around certain issues. A secure, loving bond in our most important relationship is essential and this program supports couples in deepening that bond or returning to it if it has been lost.

You will learn and experience how to:

  • Affirm strengths in your relationship
  • Address negative interaction patterns
  • Understand each other’s emotions more clearly
  • Recognize underlying reasons for your conflicts
  • Learn how to repair and forgive
  • Enhance your emotional and physical closeness
  • Improve your communication & reduce conflict

The Seven Conversations that are explored in Hold Me Tight include:

Recognizing Demon Dialogues—Identify negative patterns and hear each other in a different way.
Finding the Raw Spots—Look beyond immediate, impulsive reactions to identify the raw spots underneath.
Revisiting a Rocky Moment—De-escalate conflict and repair rifts to build emotional safety.
Hold Me Tight—Move into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.
Forgiving Injuries—Integrate injuries into conversations as demonstrations of renewal and connection. Finding and offering forgiveness empowers couples to strengthen their bond.
Bonding Through Sex and Touch—Find how emotional connection creates great sex, and good sex creates deeper emotional connection.
Keeping Your Love Alive—Make plans to be deliberate and mindful about maintaining connection.  Love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection.
Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark of Dr. Sue Johnson. Visit www.drsuejohnson.com 

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